Are you authentic?
Authenticity, such a big word yet a rather simplistic definition.
According to Webster’s Dictionary, authenticity is defined as “the quality of being authentic”. Easy enough one might say; however, why do we all struggle with being genuinely who we are? If we were to expound on this word a bit, one might come to grips with the magnitude and power it possesses.
Authenticity is the degree to which one is true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character, despite external pressures; the conscious self is seen as coming to terms with being in a material world and with encountering external forces, pressures and influences which are very different from, and other than, itself.
Now, we have arrived at the exact reason this word is so huge as it is rather complex to live out. The inner voices we all possess have cultivated our self-esteem to creep in and say things such as:
-Will they like me for who I am?
-Could it be true that I’m that amazing?
-Do I even really know who I am?
As you can I’m sure relate; the barrage of inquiries could go on and on.
This is where writing comes into picture. Writing is an avenue where one can experiment with giving the “real you” permission to come out and play. After all, writing is just a compilation of words on paper. Yet, those words are indeed an expression of you. The key is to allow words to flow out of you sans judgment. This is when the magic happens and suddenly the authentic you has began to emerge.
Trust me, the response to the real you will be nothing short of favorable. It will feel awkward, it will be scary and it will seem impossible, but this will make all of the difference.
How will you know if the genuine you has come to the surface? By putting yourself out there and letting someone read what you write. Then, truly receive their reaction! How does it feel to let someone else hold the mirror up and reflect back to you what he or she sees? Amazing, right? So, you don’t say?
Well, my friend by being authentically you and through receiving this goodness; you have given the other person a gift. The treasure of allowing them to also be who they are in the purest form. You see we get what we give! Our thoughts, opinions and feelings matter and they serve us well when viewed positively and intended for the highest good of self and others.
Writing is a way that you can begin to discover the real you. The key is to accept that you are perfectly imperfect and to have no expectations. You will be alive; you will feel accomplished and perhaps comfortable in your own skin for the very first time. Let me be the first to tell you, this whole notion of being implicitly who you are can change everything.
Years of sacrifice, telling people what they want to hear, being who they want you to be; these were all for naught. What everyone really wants to see is the uninhibited you in all of your authentic glory. In turn, they will also be who they steadfastly are as a person.
Without delay, grab your journal and favorite pen, fire up your laptop or your Smartphone and let those words pour out of you. In the words of my favorite poet, Robert Frost,
“I took the road less traveled on and that has made all of the difference” as I made the conscious choice to be ME.
More about Joni…
Joni Goodman is a Certified Professional in Learning and Performance (CPLP) with over 16 years of learning and development experience in the areas of sales training, mentoring, executive coaching and presentations skills. Joni’s passion lies in consultancy where she thrives on facilitation and the coaching and developing of others through skill based learning in order to make a difference in their lives. Joni is also a published author in “The Book of Road Tested Activities” and “ATDs Trainer’s Toolkit” .www.sololearning.com